monochrome-chromosome

Addiction....

2011-12-15T14:42:00.002+08:00

You know when you’ve had too much coffee to drink at work when your vision blurs and rubber stamps start to read like this:

Actual – Mirage

Cancelled – Caffeinated

Certified True Copy – Certified True Coffee

Draft – Decaf

Certificate of Posting – Certificate of Roasting

File Copy – Filter Coffee

I would add more but my hands are too fidgety at the moment....

Perfect Match....

2011-12-05T11:23:00.000+08:00

Good start....

2011-11-08T18:51:00.000+08:00

I received this message from an unknown number this morning,

"Hi Weng Jin, deeply appreciate you for taking extra effort to nourish and cherish G. Grateful to you ya!"

When I found out who it was from, I smiled and was ecstatic! Knowing my efforts are appreciated, for a change, makes things so different in my life.

It also made me realise that people should not demand for things to be done for them. People whom you love and are in love with you would have done it willingly anyway. There is no need to ask. And those who really love you would not ask for anything in return anyway.

Recently, I have also been asked, "Does a girl's materialistic values bother you?" I gave it some thought and said that it may to a certain extent, but as long as it doesn't bother me. I give what I can afford willingly. Honest. I absolutely have no qualms giving to those whom I love even if it means I do not own that item, whatever it may be. I'm sure some of my past "acquiantances" may be able to vouch for it.

However, if I am to be demanded for things that is beyond what I can afford, and makes it my problem that she doesn't get it, then there's where the problem lies. I honestly think that it is your own preference if Gucci bags and Nine West wedges are your kinda thing. Just don't MAKE me buy them for you. Lol.

I may end up sounding like a scrooge after this post and I guess all I'm saying is that whether it is your emotional needs or material needs that needs to be satisfied, I give what I can, and if it isn't good enough for you, maybe so am I :)

End of the day, I'm just glad my IT doesn't ask for anything, doesn't complain about anything (except that she's fat, and I absolutely think she's not, she's drop dead gorgeous). In fact, she's an absolute angel who worries about not giving enough to me. Makes me smile and know for a fact that I really made the bestest choice of my life to date.

Good morning, Friday....

2011-10-28T07:50:00.000+08:00

This is what I saw today.....

Cotton candy.....

2011-10-23T13:27:00.000+08:00

Amongst the many things that I love about Kuching, one of my favourites is the view. So calm, so relaxing. And best of all, it reminds me of someone dear to me.

So, I made this short clip, just for you.....

2011-10-23T10:25:00.000+08:00

It has been a good weekend so far. With the transplant done, I headed back to Subang to spend some time with family. And am I glad I did.
Yesterday was my cousin's birthday. Kay En celebrated is 28th birthday and I'm very happy to be able to share this happy occassion with him. It's been a while since we all sat down and had meals together, just like the way we used to do when we were younger.

I've got very fond memories of him. We used to hang out as kids, we did hate each others' guts at times, but I still love him very dearly as the brother I never had. Mom and Dad always reminds us that we used to fight so much that once in Fraser's Hill, I grabbed a chair and he, a Coke bottle. Typical rascals....hehehe...

Anyway, we headed to The Hungry Hog and had a wonderful porky meal. For pork lovers, this is one of the places to be. Ribs, Bangers and Mash, Bacon Spaghetti, Roast Pork were among this things we ordered to share.

"No, honest. They like it when you close your eyes and use that finger"

The thing about Kay En is that he reads a lot, and he knows a lot. So I'm always entertained when he talks and shares his opinion on things. When we were kids, he used to entertain me by translating all the Mandarin comic books and would read it to me (of course adding his own twist and expressions to it lah!).

Dumb and Dumber

I think Ah Yee had a good time as well, or at least I hope, cuz of the wide smile she had here.

We should do this more!!

TransPLANT!!

2011-10-22T18:10:00.001+08:00

Remember this?

Seems like it has grown so much lately that it has outgrown its pot. Some internal fighting has gone on and they were starting to wilt.
So, I decided to make some adjustments. Here's what I did:

Step 1: Identify new home

Since I haven't been so lucky with some of my other plants, I decided to give those who are doing well some extra space. So, out goes the old soil!

And in with the new!
(For those noticed those ugly things sticking from the bottom of the picture, yes, those are MINE!!)

Step 2: TransPLANT!

The flowers were carefully removed from the old pot, the separate stalks are split into three and arranged side by side as follows:

Step 3: Soiled with a kiss

Top up the planter's box with some more soil for good measure, decorate as you please, and voila!

Grow, my lovelies, GROW!!!

Good silly....

2011-10-20T16:17:00.000+08:00

I found myself whistling away today.....so silly, good silly.

The simplest things in life......

2011-10-18T18:48:00.000+08:00

I've been spending a lot of time with family and friends lately. It really feels good to finally have time to do that, without having to rush here and there to accommodate everyone. There is still some slight rush, but it's all good considering it's family anyway.

It's a change, a really welcomed one. I'm glad I now have the time to spend time with them. Not being morbid, but we all have our own limited lifespan in this world and I always fear that it would be too late. Maybe the control freak in me is constantly reminding me that there are a lot of things to do in this world and that I should go do them while I still have the chance to.

I've also had the priviledge to be surrounded by my friends and have heart-to-heart talks with a few of my best friends. I noticed something. As we all grew up and wiser too, nothing really changes. We're all still there for each other, still there to listen, still there to have a laugh. I missed all of that. I don't really know why I sacrificed all that, maybe it was just me being a hopeless romantic. To know that I now can do that, and would be appreciated more for doing it, I can now smile.

I thank you very much for being there, I thank you very much for being in my life and I thank you for appreciating who I am for who I am.....

Viewing the world upside down...

2011-10-14T02:42:00.000+08:00

It's never too late.....or is it?

2011-10-11T10:59:00.000+08:00

I have always, and by always I meant in the recent years, been an advocate of kind, humble and reserved speech. Don't get me wrong. Do speak your mind, share what you have to say. But do it tactfully.

In the midst of our determination to get our point across, more often than not, we tend to put things harshly, rude if I may. Frustration, the main cause of these situations, overpower us and cause us to raise our voices, amongs others.

All these things that possibly might happen do hurt. One way or the other. I've always been telling people to live life like there's no tomorrow. Most people think that I'm trying to tell them to enjoy life to the fullest and forgo all reservations. Yes, and No, actually. Do enjoy, but do it responsibly.

What I'm really trying to say is that, if our unintentional harsh words were to land on someone unsuspecting, and then tomorrow never comes, nothing would be able to change those hurtful last words. You wouldn't have a chance to return and make things right. So why bother taking that risk? What if tomorrow never came for that person instead? You'd just have to live life holding that regret. Forever.

So, be nice, be careful with your choice of words. You never know when they will be your last......

Paddling for Charity.....

2011-10-05T19:46:00.001+08:00

As dawn broke, the serenity of Putrajaya Water Sport Complex was overcome with the hustle and bustle of activity. 1 October 2011 marked the inaugural Skrine Regatta 2011, a charity event cum dragon boat race organised by Skrine, with the motto “Paddling for Charity”. As the grandstand started to fill up with organisers, participants and families, KPMG Vikings, as we coined ourselves (being the fearless bunch we are), grouped at our respective waiting areas. Amongst us were other teams from Skrine, Pricewaterhouse Coopers, HSBC and Bursa Malaysia.

At about 9.00 a.m., the Skrine Regatta 2011 kicked off with a welcome speech by the organising partner, Mr Lee Tatt Boon, giving a brief background of the event as well as their chosen charity for the past two years, Persatuan Kanak-kanak Istimewa Kajang Selangor (“PKIK”). Following Mr Lee’s speech, a cheque for RM25,000.00 was presented to the head of PKIK, Mr David Kong, by the respective senior representatives from each contributing team.

Mr David Kong then expressed his gratitude towards all the teams present, especially Skrine for organising such a wonderful event to bring charity together with a morning filled with fun and excitement, fuelled by adrenalin and the competitive mood. PKIK is based in Kajang, Selangor and homes approximately 100 children with learning disabilities. Catering and providing services for special needs children, PKIK aims to help them lead an independent and meaningful life. PKIK has programmes for children below the age of 7, below 14 and even for those above 14 where they are prepared and placed for employment in society.

Prior to the heats, an eye-dotting ceremony was carried out by the representatives of each team to officiate the race the traditional way. The ceremony symbolises bringing the dragons to life, as they are readied for the competition.

As Heat 1 commenced, KPMG Vikings, HSBC and Pirates of PwCea headed out to the starting grid. I have to say that the KPMG Vikings, being first-timers and having only 3 sessions of practice under our belt, paddled out towards the grid, nervous and shaking with great expectations. With the KPMG core values in mind, we did find steady ground and “worked together” as a team in sync, confidence growing as we found our rhythm. Hearts pounding, we braced ourselves for the start.

“Are you ready??” shouted the marshall, “Attention! GO!”. And we were off! Starting off slightly behind the other boats, the Vikings pressed on, picking up speed with every stroke and every pull of our paddles. “One, two, one, two” we chanted in unison as we paddled away. As we gained on our competitors, we continued to push harder and faster, finally resulting in the Vikings emerging champions of Heat 1.

Things were much lopsided in Heat 2, with the Skrine Dragons (having set up their team 7 years ago and strong favourites), pit against Bursa Malaysia. As expected, Skrine Dragons pulled away from the start and there was no looking back. Finishing over a boat length ahead of Bursa, the Dragons breathed flames, scorching those in their way.

With KPMG Vikings and Skrine Dragons safely securing spots in the grand finals, the repechage was next, with Pirates of PwCea, HSBC and Bursa fighting for the final spot in the grand finals. HSBC prevailed over the other 2 teams and was set to meet the Vikings and Dragons soon enough. For the record, HSBC had clocked 1 minute and 11 seconds in the repechage, 2 seconds ahead of the Vikings’ time in Heat 1.

20 minutes later and team strategies revamped for the finals, KPMG Vikings put our hands together just before arming ourselves with life vests and paddles. Shouting “VIKINGS!” together, we were all set for the grand finals. As we walked towards the dock, all of us had our games faces on. Some nervous from merely making it into the finals, some were just pumped up to prove the impossible; we can beat our closest rivals, Skrine.

We were much in tune during our approach to the starting grid this time. As we casually paddled past the grandstand during the approach, we heard our team name being called out and the crowd was ecstatic. Proud to represent KPMG, some of us raised our paddles, waving to the cheering crowd. This caused us to be slightly off balance and made the boat tilt to the right. Facing the wrath of capsizing smack in the middle of the grandstand, we were given orders to focus. I bet that would have caused a blast of laughter, followed by dampened confidence of the Vikings. Fortunately, we had avoided the mishap and proceeded to psych ourselves at the grid.

Once again, we heard the marshall shout out the starting commands. As he shouted “GO!”, we began our fight to the finish line. KPMG fans were initially devastated that the Vikings had a slow start. Things looked bleak for the Vikings, as Skrine Dragons and HSBC pulled ahead by approximately half a boat length. We pushed on, stroke by stroke, not knowing our position in the race. We pressed on, just concentrating on paddling in sync, which is key to winning, I was told. Huffing and puffing away, we were at halfway point. At this point, we have matched HSBC and their newfound strength, but still behind the charging Dragons. As planned, we increased our stroke rate about two thirds of the length of the race. Our pacers up front being urged to push harder, while our powerhouses in the middle of the boat flexing their muscles, matching the increased intensity of the pacers. As our hearts pounded and our muscles searing in pain, we thought to ourselves, “This is the grand finals, we already made it so far, this is merely the final furlong.” Our counts of “One, Two!” have now changed to chants of “PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!”. As we reached the finishing line, we were so close to the Dragons that we were unsure who finished first. As we looked around puzzled, wondering if we had done the impossible, we had heard the commentator announcing that the Vikings were the first champions of the regatta.

Yes! We did it! We are the champions! As we slowly drifted to the dock, we were overcome with pride and joy, congratulating each other. We then saw our supporters rushing to the dock, waiting to congratulate the soon-to-be-crowned champions. Shaking hands with the other competitors, expressing our thanks for a good fight and impeccable sportsmanship, we made our way to the grandstand, beaming all the way like we had just struck the lottery.

Elated, we were of course crowned champions, with the Skrine Dragons a close second, and HSBC, having raced 3 times in total, in third placing.

Lunch was then served at the Maritime Centre, where participants and families dug into the tasty spread of local dishes. While we mingled around, recapping the exciting parts of the event, we were shown a video presentation of pictures taken throughout the day. Mr Lee had subsequently promised, proudly, that the firm will again organise the regatta next year as it was such a success. He hopes to have more teams next year, to make it a bigger, better event that it already was.

I hope that KPMG would commit to sending a team each year going forward. Besides being in line with KPMG Core Values, I am happy to say that this has brought us closer and also brought the best in all of us. I am sure even if we didn’t win, we would still have enjoyed ourselves dearly, basking in the glory of the scorching sun and cool breeze blowing above the surface of the water.

Just checking!!

Inspired by the 80s....

2011-09-29T10:54:00.000+08:00

Listening to such soothing music makes me wonder,
What makes mankind hate each other,
When we can fit like a glove,
All it takes is some love,
What you said made me think,
Why must here be crackers, niggers, beaners and chinks,
When we could learn to love like family,
Where "we" matter and not you nor me,
I hope to see one day,
Wehn we no longer have ugly words to say,
When a smile means we're friends,
When a broken heart finally mends.

Graduation Granny.....

2011-09-22T12:15:00.000+08:00

Granny, I love you muchies!!

My Nightly Sight.....

2011-09-19T23:52:00.002+08:00

A little green relaxation...

2011-09-15T17:46:00.000+08:00

Guys, I know many of you have been asking me to put up pictures of the new place but I certainly have been too busy lately to get the house ready for a photo shoot. However, would just like to share my newfound hobby and love for gardening.

Since the balcony was pretty empty (at first), I decide to fill it up a little with some plants. Who would ever guess that someone like me would actually enjoy it! LOL. Getting some dirt under the fingers was actually pretty fun and nowadays, after work, I'd come home and water my plants.

So far, the plants that are there were bought ready grown except for one little pot. It kinda grew on the side next to the plant you see on the first pic. Being a noob, I got so excited, thinking that my plant has a "baby". So I diligently transferred the "plant-ling" to its own crib. A couple of days later, I actually realised that it could well be a weed!! Like I can tell, right? Anyway, the optimist in me decided to keep watering it just in case it really blooms into a beautiful plant. Just to share a few more pics of the plants....

Build me up, Buttercup......

2011-08-26T11:02:00.000+08:00

The fact that the minute I got your text (whether you were drunk-texting or not doesn't matter), I called right away. There was no answer despite making about 10 attempts. I assumed you were asleep already.

So, this morning I made a conscious effort to speak to you when I got to the office. Was really looking forward towards it till it sounded like nothing did change.

Please don't misunderstand my intentions. We've been in this so deep that our vision has been so narrowed that we no longer see what's good for us anymore. Treat this as a time to reflect and think about what's important. That's all I ask from you. I guess patience and maturity is the key to this, if it was to work out.

If you still want to demand that we get back together right away, then I guess nothing has changed.

"IT"-ing away at my heart.....

2011-08-25T18:31:00.000+08:00

It bled deep inside to hear those words.
It smashed my heart into pieces to know that you weren't willing to give in even at the final moments of the evening.
It left me dumbfounded to realise that your excuses and ego took precedence over our love.
It crushed me when I leaned over to kiss you and you didn't let me.
It had confused me, not knowing which direction to head when you said you didn't want this to end.
It hurt me to know that you let me walk away.

It was worse when......
...... I couldn't provide advice so that you will not make the mistakes I did.
...... I was unable to convince you that all I ever did was to love you.
...... I had ended things before anything begun.
...... I wasn't good enough to show that compromise is key.
...... I was unable to prove to you that change was needed in us.
...... I felt that I have failed in this relationship

My prayer within....

2011-08-24T16:42:00.000+08:00

There's a look of resign on my face,
Even my walk is burdened by an unseen weight,
Eventhough I don't, some see it as a race,
Its painful to see when love turns to hate.

Call it love, Call it disappointment,
Call it whatever you like,
Names don't mean anything at present,
When things are done out of spite.

I had such great hopes,
As it diminishes away,
Relationships are full of hills and slopes,
All I can do now is to kneel and pray.

Dilemma...

2011-07-12T10:09:00.000+08:00

Someone once told me the condo wasn't good for me, and her.....
I didn't believe it but recently, I am starting to....
Disposal is a word that is in my mind.

Try not....

2011-06-24T13:41:00.000+08:00

I've heard of the phrase, "Try, and if you don't succeed, try again..."

It makes sense. Its just perseverance at heart. Some of us just don't give up that easily. Unfortunately, some give up too easily.

I tried to understand the logic behind the latter. Why do people give up?
Is it because they have already tried many times and failed, therefore they lose hope?
Is it because, they think of the possibilities of failure, and condemn themselves before they even try?

I have been brought up a fighter. My parents instilled it in me that what ever I want from life, it will not fall from the sky. I HAVE to work for it.

Maybe this may lead to my downfall, maybe it wouldn't. I believe that whatever it is, we try. And try. And if we don't succeed, we take a step back and analyse the situation. If trying again really means failure, then only we stop.

At least I try first.

Packing up Memory Lane......

2011-06-08T11:19:00.027+08:00

The house is almost ready. Just some minor touch-ups here and there and we're done.

Amidst all the excitement and hustle and bustle of getting the new home ready, I have slowly started packing things in my current room. It is needless to say that as I pack each item into boxes, I can't help but feel sad that I'll be leaving this room.

I have spent about 20 years in this wonderful, messy room. Messy, being a result of my own character. An organised mess tho. I manage to find things where I had left them, unless tidy-mom decides that she can't take the mess any longer. Lol.

So many things have happened in there.
All the cousins (only two actually, whom happens to be the best cousins in the world) who have spent the night, playing Magic:The Gathering and comparing Tamiya race cars.
All the friends who have hung out, talking bout girls, planning out under-aged night out.
All the nights revising for exams, which ended with my face in the books. (hey, I was just trying to absorb more effectively, okay?)
All the hours spent hiding away from the world, in my cosy ol' room.
All the girls who have spent the night. *wink*

As I pack away, I made up my mind. Not everthing will be heading to the condo. I shall leave the room carrying my style, my stuff, my memories. I still want to come back, spend the night over the weekend and feel at home. I also don't want my parents to think that I am moving out and away, leaving the house. I wish to remain part of the house and of course, the family.

Flashback.....

2011-05-28T10:59:00.000+08:00

Flat out.....

2011-05-16T09:40:00.000+08:00

I learnt something over the weekend. Here's what.....

On Sunday evening, I made my way to Sunway Giza for pool training. Having caught on the highway in torrential rain, I drove really slowly as there were debris from an adjacent construction site. Something flew towards my windscreen and hit it with a loud smack. Thankfully, nothing broke.

Later on, after a few bumps along the way, I found myself safe in Giza's parking lot. Life went on as usual, ignoring the storm out in the open. Few hours later, I got back to the car and found this:

Well, not exactly, but this was after I managed to change the tyre in less than 15 minutes.

But what was amazing was that I did not lose my cool when I found out! No yelling, no cursing, no feeling that God was unfair to me. Just got to the spare tyre and changed it like a pro (a few blisters here and there, lah).

When I got home, I recapped what happened over the weekend. I smiled to myself, proudly, for being a much patient person. Hope this anger management lasts :)

Twist of events.....

2011-05-03T10:46:00.000+08:00

Just as you think that everything's going well, life nips u in the butt just to remind you that it's not gonna be easy on you.

Just recently, a colleague of mine received some bad news. It then reminded me that life is short and as far as we can, we should brush aside the negative thoughts and enjoy our time in this world.

I'm trying to be as happy as possible. I'm trying to look at the brighter side of things. I too am facing a lot of stress. We all are.

I don't want to be gone one day, and the room is filled with regret.

Sharing is Caring......

2011-04-18T16:48:00.000+08:00

Recently, I have been very busy running around sorting things out for the house, namely deposit payments and getting renovators to give me quotes for the works.

I have one thing to stress upon.

All that I own today, is a result of my parents' contributions as well as my hard work. In this particular case, owning a place I can call my own home is something I am very proud of. It is something that comes along once in 10 years, once in a lifetime for some. That applies for me too.

Hence, when it comes to decorating and renovating the place, my intentions are to share this special, happy moment with the ones I love, especially you. This includes furnishing decisions, of course. My aim? To make the home as comfortable as possible for the both of us.

At the same time, all these running around and money woes may have caused me stress and fatigue. I hope you can bear with me if I have lost my patience lately. I love you, aight?

Timeout?

2011-03-28T09:10:00.000+08:00

This is a timeout I don't need. Beeboo is away for the next 9 days for work. I'm already miss you terribly......

However, WWIII seems to have subsided, for now. And I think it would be a good thing that the two of you spend some time apart and not in each other's faces.

As a kid, I've listened to rhymes such as "Stick and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me". As an adult, I know for a fact that they do. So I always try to remind myself not to blurt words out without thinking it through first.

Sometimes it works, sometimes I fail.

And when I fail, "Somebody gonna get hurt, real bad!" I'm sorry, the flesh is weak :p

When the mind is idle.....

2011-03-15T11:14:00.000+08:00

New Toy!!!

All I need now is.....

2011-03-14T17:34:00.000+08:00

At times like these, all I need is a little hug.

Not constructive criticism.

Not hurtful words of wisdom.

Not anger at others, directed at me.

Just a little warm hug, saying, "Everything is gonna be ok."

Suffocated......

2011-03-11T16:17:00.000+08:00

I'm feeling so stifled.

It really sucks to be judged for how you look.

It really sucks to be penalised for what other people have or have not done.

It really sucks to be prevented from proving your ability.

It really sucks to be trying to meet everybody's demands.

It just sucks to be me.

A Matter of Perspective

2011-03-08T18:13:00.000+08:00

You know how you spend a lot of time with a certain someone, and then you want to hang out with your friends and he/she gets upset? And at that point, it seems like a good idea to drop brilliant lines like, "But I've already spent so much time with you!".

Bad news is, this line trumps yours, "Oooohhhh!!!! Such a burden to spend time with me that you want to get away from me right??". LOL!!

In order to achieve peace, here's a suggestion.

Instead of looking at it as "I've spend so much time with you, thus I need some time with my buddies";

Try, "Baby, I'm spending a lot of time with you NOW, so that in case I spend some time with others without your presence, I wouldn't have deprived you of me!"

Makes sense to me. Try it. If it works, let me know. Then u can buy me dinner, guys.

1 down, Many to go

2011-03-04T17:23:00.000+08:00

I had the best weekend ever.

Cherie and I decided to head to Genting to celebrate our 1st anniversary. We booked a decent room, and drove up to the highlands. Having planned to enjoy some rides (I'm no good with roller coasters) and just basically enjoy ourselves, we first hit the indoor amusement park.

It was mad! We played some pirate shoot 'em up and blew like 50 bucks in 15 minutes. Then it was ticket galore from playing "The Drill". Over 1400 tickets were won at the amusement park! Too bad the prizes in Genting isn't that fantastic but we still got a whole bunch of pens and silly gifts, including a ball for Leo!

Up next was buffet dinner at Hot Pot! Priced at RM29.90++ per pax, we indulged in a variety of fish cakes, crabsticks, chicken and beef chucks which sizzled away on the hot plate.

After a scrumptuous dinner and a nice hot shower, we headed to The Pavillion for Glitz, a show filled with Chinese acrobats, magical illusions and leggy Russian dancers. Even the lady on Youtube doing that amazing sand art was performing.

We also had fun with bumper cars, mini roller coasters and the motion master shows!

We spent quite a lot of time at the casino, with Cherie striking it lucky at the slots. I, on the other hand, didn't have that kind of luck but at least managed to win a little towards the end to cover the losses.

All in all, it was a wonderful trip, with my wonderful beeboo

I Woof Chew!!

2011-02-14T11:57:00.000+08:00

14.02.11

2011-02-14T10:23:00.002+08:00

Sometimes, it is wise to just take a step back, and look at the bigger picture.

Happy Valentine's Day!

"Cross"ing my mind.....

2011-01-24T10:28:00.000+08:00

In our hasty chase to get our own wishes to be granted, we tend to take others for granted.

In my recent observation, it is a fact that everyone in the world has their own agenda. I have met a lot of successful people, both through legal and non-legal means. I noticed that each and every one of them believe in the same thing. Hard work pays off. No one makes it by sitting around and waiting for success to fall from the sky.

Thus, I do not think it is right to take advantage of anyone's kindness and generosity for your own gain. I'm sure all of you out there will agree with me. But sometimes, we do this without realising it ourselves!

I was recently told, "You may spend many hours a day pursuing what you seek to achieve in life, but all goes to waste if you do not reflect on what you have done at the end of the day." Think about it. Think about people's lives which we cross each day and ask yourselves if you really did "cross" them.

Pareto Efficiency....

2010-12-23T14:56:00.000+08:00

I've got a feeling that my life, on its own, is running on a concept called Pareto Efficiency.

Nothing good comes along, without something bad happening to offset it.

I'm sick and tired of this, really.

Words of the Decade.....

2010-12-21T00:40:00.000+08:00

A very wise Mr Lim once told me,

"Imagine a piece of paper, with a pencil mark right in the middle. Everyone will notice the black dot, but not the 99.9999999999% of white. Now replace the paper with the good deeds you have done and the pencil with a wrongdoing in your life."

That, my friends, are the wisest words that I have heard this decade, if not in my life. But that brings to question, why has life become such a chore? Why does one have to tread ever so carefully in the social environment we live in? Since when have jobs required such politically motivated chess moves? And what has happened to true, unconditional love that we all yearn to have?

I end with my own half-baked quote,

"I love, therefore I deserve nothing less than that."

My Xmas Wish......

2010-12-20T16:10:00.000+08:00

Dear Santa,

All I want for Christmas is a good one. No need for fancy presents, in fact, no need for presents at all.
Just a peaceful Christmas with lots of smiles and laughter.

However, if you can't let me have that for Christmas, I'd understand. Totally.

Psychic.....

2010-12-17T10:30:00.002+08:00

You seem to be able to read my mind. I love you too, honey.

Merry-lyn Christmas!

2010-12-09T10:04:00.001+08:00

This lady is amazing.....

No, not THIS in particular. The one who painted this :)

Lifting our own weight.....

2010-10-26T12:09:00.002+08:00

Lifts. Almost everyone takes them on a daily basis.

The reason why I brought this up is because of some idiots in my office building that don’t realize this:

PEOPLE STANDING AT THE FRONT, CLOSE TO THE BUTTONS, HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES!

They are the ones who have to hold the lift doors and close them accordingly. I have, on numerous occasions, encountered people who are totally oblivious to that FACT! This bugs me big time. Is it not common sense that, if the open and close buttons are right in your face, USE THEM! There will be people getting in and out of lifts, and they cannot be scrambling to get in and reach for the buttons to keep the door open at the same time.

The thing is, the lift traffic in my office is pretty heavy, servicing a total of 15 floors and 1300 staff members in my firm alone. There are bound to be days where you have a lift jammed packed with people and those standing at the back may struggle to maneuver through the crowd to get out. If that happens, I would think that it is only courteous to hold the lift. Could you imagine if you were in that scenario and you had to get off on another floor because the idiot “in charge” was sleeping on the job?

This also applies when we’re all waiting for the doors to shut. Some lifts have longer or shorter delays before the doors actually shut automatically, depending on where you are. In this case, it only makes sense to press the close button when we’re all standing idly waiting. Bear in mind that some of us have to be at work on time, some of us have urgent matters to attend to, and not everyone are bosses of the company. So please exercise the finger and be considerate to others’ and push that button!

PUSH, BABY, PUSH!!

Life's Nothing But A Race....

2010-10-13T14:35:00.000+08:00

While watching MotoGP in Sepang last weekend, I was reminded of something. Life's nothing but a race.

You see, in a race, everybody wants to win. But there can be only one winner. So, what should we do?

As any driver would tell you, there are times you need to push. We can't just sit back and hope that everything we want falls on our laps. We need to work for what we want. Rossi did that over the weekend. Starting in 6th place, he dropped to 9th, then climbed all the way to the top. It's called fighting spirit.

There are also times that you need to just hang on to survive. We need not push all the time, that leads to burn out. Cruise mode is sometimes good. But do take this time to observe others and plan ahead. Lorenzo is a good example. Only needing to finish 9th to be the overall champion, he rode hard enough to finish 3rd, a podium finish nonetheless. He knew very well that if he had tried to overtake the two riders ahead, there would be a possibility that he may crash and lose everything.

Most importantly, we MUST know when to brake. Its not always about winning! Stay too close to the person in front and you may hit him. Going fast when you should stay low and cool, you crash. Stop when you need to, take a break. Go on a short holiday, even if it's not far. Works for me.

Ride like the Fiat Yamaha Racing Team, not Mat Rempits ;)

Lessons Money Can't Buy....

2010-10-06T14:00:00.002+08:00

In the past few days, I have learnt a lot. From humility to gratitude.

While in Penang, we hired a “beca” or trishaw puller to take us sight-seeing around town. Uncle Holan (not his real name, Holan cuz he keeps adding Ho Lan in front of almost everything he says) is 65 years old, been a trishaw puller for 9 years.

During the ride, he was showing us the places of interest. He was cycling past Pelangi Walk when he commented that they sold “expensive” coffee. Expecting Starbucks or CoffeeBean, I looked up and saw Old Town Kopitiam, which sells coffee at about a third the price of the former.

Later on, Uncle Holan brought us to a chocolate factory. He says, “Ho Lan Hou Sek”, meaning it’s very tasty. As a small token, Cherie and I got him a small box to thank him for his efforts. He told us that in nine years he has not had any customers buying anything for him until now.

Yesterday, I went prawn fishing with Cherie. Bitten by a mosquito, I removed my ring a little to get to the itch. Murphy’s Law in place, it fell in the pool. Having lost hope, my heart was smashed to bits. Luckily, the workers were very helpful and it took all the King’s men and all the King’s horses, and one upside down dude who almost drowned to rescue my ring.

In short, I have learnt that it is good to live in moderation, it is better to be humble, it is great to have reliable friends around. We laugh at beauty queens who wish for world peace. Something as simple as peace, makes a far-fetched wish, if we let it be.

The Bomb of a Meal....

2010-10-05T10:42:00.000+08:00

This was dinner last night.......Maggi Mee with freshly caught and cooked prawns at the Prawn Fishing Pond in Bandar Utama. 3 hours of patience and hard work paid off.....

Check out the size of the bowl!

The final "head"-count. 23!

Science vs. Economics....

2010-08-15T23:51:00.000+08:00

I was at a club in KL recently and bought a bottle of whisky. After pouring about 8 glasses, we felt that it tasted kinda funny. But at that time, we didn't think much of it as we were already buzzing from the Prosecco during dinner.

Having left after that 8 glasses, I took the bottle back. And did a little experiment. Look what I found.

The smaller bottle was the one bought from the club. And the bigger one is a one bought from the duty free shop at the airport. Notice the difference in colour? It can be because the liqour is moonshine, or cuz the bigger bottle is more dense?

Here's a picture of the bottles swaped round:

I got another empty bottle from another club, but as it is utterly impossible to compare the colour of the liquid (one's empty, dumbass), this time take a look at the labels. Now, look closer at the font. Notice the bold BLACK LABEL and how one is in gold and the other in silver?

Picture of bottle swapped round:

Quetion: Which is moonshine? Or are they both?

:)

Perfectly flawed??

2010-08-11T10:15:00.000+08:00

I have been watching a Korean series, The Accidental Couple, lately. I noticed that the lead actress, who plays Han Jisu, seems pretty attractive. However, I personally feel that something's too perfect about her. Till she looks flawed.

I'm talking about being naturally beautiful. You may have, on an individual basis, the slitiest eyes, the pudgiest nose, and the thinnest lips. But sometimes, somehow, when it's all placed together, it paints a really beautiful picture.

Be proud of who you are, feel blessed for what you have. For each and everyone is perfect, perfectly flawed.

Vacation....

2010-08-10T14:08:00.002+08:00

My long awaited, long needed vacation is almost here!! 10 days!!

Quick, quick, quick!!

The curse has been broken....

2010-08-05T15:20:00.000+08:00

Thank you, bee.

Condo sorted.
Solicitors sorted.
House loan sorted.
Renovation, if any, to be sorted.

I'm home free.

Please...

2010-08-03T18:23:00.000+08:00

I just need a break. From pleasing everyone. Please.

I'm gifted....

2010-07-30T11:57:00.000+08:00

I've got a gift.

Its called "fucking up my life". I seem to be able to obliterate anything good in my life.

There. At least I'm good at something.

Plunge......Splat, No?

2010-07-30T09:57:00.000+08:00

When I opened my eyes, I saw nothing but darkness. I struggled to find my step, flailing my arms around but couldn't manage to hold on to anything. Next thing I know, I fell into a pit.

An endless pit. Pit of depression.

Falling through the depths, sometimes I just wish I would hit the cold hard base, sharrtering my bones into a gazillion pieces. Ah. Peace.

I'm tired of this fight. Just staying afloat, gulping for air whenever I can, is too tiring. I've been fighting for so long, I just wish I would do good sometimes. But I fail. Again. And again....and again....and again.....

The hunt continues......

2010-07-26T01:19:00.000+08:00

Fell in love with a house I went to view earlier today. As usual, it's priced way above my budget. I did a little calculation in my head (and on the back of a receipt) and came to the conclusion that I will barely have approximately RM30 left to spend each day on food and parking.

So buying the house would mean:

1) a nice, comfortable house to be in.
2) a WHOLE lot of debt
3) NO luxury
4) NO shopping
5) NO Gloria Jeans
6) NO fancy rims
7) NO premium racing tyres
8) NO car mods
9) NO luxurious meals
10) NO partying etc....

Seems like a lot of NOs for a YES....sigh. If Shakespeare was in the same shoes I'm in, I'm sure he would say, "To buy, or not to buy?"

Was just wondering if being a Good Samaritan was such a good idea. Sacrificing your dream for someone else's well being. I guess I'm too naive at times. Oh well. Lets not look that direction anymore.

To the future. Salut!

Pics....

2010-07-20T17:08:00.000+08:00

I was surfing through the IAFG website earlier today and saw that they took some pics of me playing snooker for KPMG.

Then I saw that they took one goofy shot....

Like clockwork.....

2010-07-19T09:47:00.000+08:00

I can't remember if I've mentioned this before. But it seems like approximately one month before my birthday, I always get struck by a bolt of misfortune.

Without fail, this year, it struck on 18 July 2010. Awesome.

Now, I'm just waiting for another 30 days of bad luck.

Tick tock.

Sleepless.....

2010-07-08T11:26:00.000+08:00

So far this week, sleep has been horrible. I keep waking up in the middle of the night.

Sun Night 4.00 a.m.
Mon Night 4.20 a.m.
Tues Night - 3.30 a.m. & 5.20 a.m
Weds Night - 4.11 a.m.

Just shoot me. Please.

Love, Companion, Life Partner....

2010-06-16T09:42:00.000+08:00

It feels good to have someone by your side, no matter what you do.

That's what I had on my mind when I looked at you from across the room. The past few weeks, I've been really engrossed in work and games. I do apologise for taking up so much of your time and I really do appreciate your presence.

You motivate me to play better, work harder and you calm me down when I'm over pressuring myself.

All I want to say is that I love you and never want to be apart from you.

Just thoughts

2010-06-08T09:51:00.001+08:00

I received some news yesterday. It is a little disheartening knowing that some people just do not change. I'm not saying I'm an angel myself. But some things are very clear cut on what we should or should not do. We just cannot cross those lines. Well, just my personal take on this anyway.

Something else came into my mind too. As I was driving, I asked myself, "Have you ever been so in love that if you lose that special someone, you would feel like your world would crumble and have no value anymore?"

I replied to myself, "Yes, I have. I AM. I scared."

Quotes that made me laugh today....

2010-06-07T16:12:00.000+08:00

I been surfing the net today....and stumbled upon these that make me chuckle.

"Nobody ends up a virgin. Life fucks everyone"

"Oral sex makes your day, Anal sex makes your hole weak."

Is it just me?

2010-06-01T09:43:00.000+08:00

Has there ever been a time in your career where you just sit back, take a good look and sigh?

Well, maybe I'm there, maybe I'm not. I just feel tired.

Yawn

2010-05-27T16:55:00.000+08:00

Life's just so boring without you......

Quick, leave the presentation already!

Eppy Eppy day!!

2010-05-27T09:21:00.000+08:00

Hey hey darling!!!

It's your birthday today!

Hope you like the presents and have a fun-filled, fantastic birthday today!

Just a short note...

2010-05-20T09:12:00.001+08:00

You're made of sugar, and spice, and everything nice!
I promise to give you all that I can, all that you need and all that I've promised.
Ruff yew, bee!

Dizzy....

2010-05-13T14:30:00.001+08:00

My world is spinning....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning .....
and spinning out of control.......

Gutted

2010-05-10T11:36:00.000+08:00

It was Mother's Day yesterday. I have to admit that I've been neglecting home a little since I've started getting busy at work and my love life. I really should have spent more time at home but sometimes, I just can't.

However, yesterday I made it a point to spend time with mom. I had lunch with them at Aunt PC's house and offered to buy Tutti Frutti for Mom and Aunt Fhong. They said they were too full after lunch to have anymore. I offered. Too bad for me.

Dad then said he wanted to go shopping at Mid Valley and I said I wouldn't wanna go because its just too much of a hassle battling it out for a parking space, to say the least. So he left, with mom. And didn't even tell me, while I was waiting around for mom to turn up.

Anyway, the final and greatest blow of all was when they made plans for dinner and didn't let me know. All this while I was waiting at home patiently for them to come home so I could give mom her present and flowers.

Texted dad asking what dinner plans were and the sms I received really put me in a rut. They were already at the restaurant, he replied.

I felt so, WANTED. Happy Mother's Day.

Caffeine Addiction...

2010-05-05T18:11:00.000+08:00

Yesterday, I tried to see if drinking tea could replace my daily coffee intake at the office.

I had two cups of tea, each with two teabags.

At 5.00 p.m. I resorted to a mocha at Gloria Jeans. I left work at 5.30 p.m.

Conclusion: Tea - No kick. I'm back on coffee :)

Smiles....

2010-04-30T14:36:00.000+08:00

You know you're in love when every little thing she does puts a smile on your face :)

On a lighter note.......

2010-04-28T02:47:00.000+08:00

Things I do......

Smile each time you are so cheeky,
Tear each time we're apart,
Sniff eact time you are near,
Sound each time we go to sleep,
Listen each time you need to reach out,
Hug each time you are feeling cold,
Beam each time you share my life,
Pat each time you need to sleep,
Kiss each time to show how much I love you,
Pamper each time you're feeling
Protect each time you are vulnerable
Help each time to make your life that little bit better :)

Timing is of the essence....

2010-04-27T12:00:00.000+08:00

Because you wanted to pursue your dreams, I have to put mine on hold.

Sometimes it is difficult to comprehend how the people around you, especially those that should be the ones to take up the responsibility, can turn a blind eye to your ~~needs~~ wants. Just can't compute.

Anyhow, a promise is a promise. I was fully aware of the consequences. And I shall live by my word.

Tsk Tsk....

2010-04-21T19:13:00.002+08:00

Those words just ~~shocked~~ appalled me. I'm just glad it wasn't me.....

Bukit Tinggi Pics

2010-04-21T08:39:00.008+08:00

As promised, some pictures we took during our last trip. Okay, A LOT :)

Weekend getaway....

2010-04-19T10:10:00.000+08:00

The weekend just passed, we decided to take a drive up to Bukit Tinggi, a small French-styled town, away from the hustle bustle of KL city. This is the only picture I took with my mobile phone, because the absent-minded me forgot to bring the camera. BabyCherie brought her dSLR along so I'll post up some more when I get the pictures from her.

We had a blast over there, starting with 2 hours of painting. Yes, we dug into our creative side and started splashing paint all over models. No, not life-sized, naked models, but ones made out of plaster of Paris. I chose a nice photo frame for BabyCherie and a cool bird for myself. Reason being, I can't paint for nuts so I left the more complicated work for her. Heh. After I was done with my bird (whoa, that sounded wrong. Really, REALLY WRONG!), I realised the colour scheme was pretty much the same as my Superman t-shirt. So much for being creative. Even my inanimate t-shirt can give me subliminal messages to how I should paint. Wtf.

By the time we were done, it was dinner time. So, we washed up and headed to the buffet line. It costs us RM55++ each (normal price RM45++, but it is more expensive on Saturdays because of the barbecue) and we kept eyeing the chicken satay and grilled prawns. It was a good thing we sat near the barbecue pit, for we could monitor the cooking progress closely. Lol. We literally had a plate of grilled prawns each, by the end of our meal, we had about a plate of prawns each. Burp.

After dinner, it started raining pretty heavily, so we ended up staying in and played with the Wii while BabyCherie did some work. For good measure, we popped a bottle of Beringer White Zinfandel to keep warm from the thunderstorm (and aircond at full blast la).

The next morning, we felt lazy so we slept in and got up for lunch. We checked out, then headed to the Japanese botanical gardens. Not really much going on there, except for the sttep walk to the gardens which left us panting and gasping for air by the time we reached to top. Lol. Yeah, we're pretty out of shape.

Anyway, more pictures up next. Stay tuned.

My Masterpiece

2010-04-19T09:20:00.000+08:00

I've always thought that I've got the artistic touch of a 2 year old. In fact, I'm pretty sure they make better art pieces than I do. Anyhow, behold, Mr Watermelon.....

Only this much?

2010-04-15T11:37:00.000+08:00

I asked after my trip to Johor, "How much do you miss me?"
Answer? Please refer picture:

At first I was surprised. Then the explanation came. :) As usual, I didn't expect it.

Question of the day.....Answer that applies to a lifetime....

2010-04-14T01:33:00.001+08:00

I was asked earlier today, "Aren't you tired?"

Short answer, "No."

Long answer, "Not at all. The longing for you to be in my arms overpowers the fatigue from 7 hours of driving, 1.5 hours of packing, 1.5 hours of moving boxes, all in the factory with no power."

I have never been this in love.
I have never wanted to spend so much time with anyone.
I have never needed anyone this much before.
I have never been happier in my life.

Lucky number?

2010-04-12T14:27:00.002+08:00

The count stands at 1,488 since 4 February 2010.

Cheriepie....

2010-04-12T09:20:00.002+08:00

I love you, bee!

Bad Habits Die Hard....

2010-04-08T14:11:00.004+08:00

It's ~~sad~~ disappointing to know that some things just don't ever change.

I do try my best, and I do hope for it too. But sometimes, one man cannot change the world.

So, stop taking it out on me. Just stop and think who did wrong to you. It may be me, it may not be me. If it was the former, go ahead and screw me for it. If it was the latter, take it out on someone else. I've endured enough.

Fond of You Fondue

2010-04-07T17:03:00.000+08:00

We had a nice fondue at theobroma's for tea on saturday last week.

Gave me that warm fuzzy feeling like you always do. :)

When real men know what's best for them....

2010-04-07T16:43:00.001+08:00

A couple of weeks ago, EstBunny came back with Gwailo and thier friend, DrPhil. I mentioned to them that I was going to pop by the manicurist for my mani-pedi session. The boys were a little reluctant at first, but decided to join me after all.

I'm glad to say that they enjoyed it. :)

I saw, I hope, I promise....

2010-04-07T09:53:00.000+08:00

I saw the frowns on your face,
The stress on your gaze,
The tears held back in your eyes,
The lost feeling swallowing your thoughts.

I hope I am the one who kisses away the first,
The one who is a relief to the second,
The one who wipes the third away,
And the one who can be the replacement for the fourth.

I promise to be the first person to be there for you,
To be by your side in a flash of a second when you need me,
Thirdly, to be there to give you a comforting hug,
To be the same smitten, loving donkey you met on the fourth.

I Love You, Babyboo....

A Doze of You....

2010-04-02T09:42:00.004+08:00

I smiled at you,
While you were fast asleep,
Hugging my pillow tight,
Sniffing from the cold,
Serene, in your own land.

I leaned over,
And planted a kiss,
You surfaced from the other realm,
Flashed a soft smile,
And drifted back.

I hugged you,
You shifted into your spot,
And welcomed me,
While we both held hands,
In both worlds.

Life's like taking a dump.

2010-04-01T11:15:00.004+08:00

Why do I say that? Simple explanation, as follows:

1. Sometimes, it comes and goes easily, smooth, without hassle.

2. Sometimes, you just need to give it a little push. If you don't, you won't get the job done.

3. Sometimes, no matter how hard you push, it just won't budge.

4. Sometimes, it feels like something's gonna happen. But all you get is a load of hot air.

5. Sometimes, there's just too much shit for your liking.

Anyways, happy poo-ing.

Only one

2010-04-01T01:08:00.003+08:00

I can't function without you.....it's true.

The dark, cold alley......

2010-03-31T10:19:00.002+08:00

Today is another of those days when I wake up and go, "Oh shit. Here we go again."

A certain aspect of my life has not gone too well. Besides the apparent disparity and imbalance, certain individuals have made it a living hell for me. I face it every day, dreading it, to say the least.

I think of myself as one with a creative mind, to a some extent. Being here is suffocating. Having to deal with fickle minds, anal behaviour and uncalled for comments is just tiring. I just wish I do a John Wayne and ride away into the sunset.

I guess life's just like that.

God Bless You.....

2010-03-30T11:33:00.002+08:00

Today, I did my job. As thanks, some good souls decided to thank me.
I got this:

God bless you too. Amen.

Earth Hour 2010....

2010-03-26T13:59:00.004+08:00

I'm sure all of you have been subject to a lot of Earth Hour campaigning on the TV, Radio and newspapers.

Question is, what are YOU gonna do about it?

For me, I'm spending it with my boo. Here's the plan:

We arm ourselves with some watermelons.

Sit outside at the yard.

Grab a couple of spoons.

And go bonkers. Lol.

Have a great Earth Hour, everyone. Go Green.

I'm not perfect.....

2010-03-25T09:53:00.003+08:00

I was never a saint,
And never claimed to be one,
Regardless of whom I've been,
I have been striving to be a better person,
I've put who I was behind me,
For those things cannot be undone,
As far as I know,
I've been true, to myself and you.

A lot of people judge,
Most unaware,
Of my reasons,
Of my oblivion,
Some unaccepting,
Some more forgiving,
Truth be told,
My honesty unfold.

Who's to say,
Who's to accuse,
For we've all wronged,
One way or the other,
I think I know better,
When I say we're all sinners,
As long as I'm aware,
I've done my best.

Ballistic....

2010-03-23T12:07:00.000+08:00

I'm this close (cue thumb and index finger) to going SpongeBob Squarepants on you.....

This close......

Don't.....

Push......

Me.........

Reflections.....

2010-03-22T11:48:00.003+08:00

I'd say I'm pretty sentimental when it comes to things like these. Whilst many may think of the past when it comes to that word, I present to you, "Reflection of the future".

I heart you.

Fancy words that came into my mind....

2010-03-19T12:00:00.003+08:00

Insolent

Obdurate

Absurd

Incoherent

Delirious

*clap clap* :)

Stressed?

2010-03-16T08:14:00.003+08:00

I seriously don't understand how difficult it is to comprehend that sometimes, things just don't work out the way you want it to be. I don't know if you've heard of something called a lost opportunity. It means, "There was an opportunity, you didn't make full use of it, it's now too late. Opportunity gone."

It's not something you should ponder upon and regret. It's something you should reflect on and make sure you don't make the same mistake. We all have been there and made bad judgement calls. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? It is these mistakes which we make (and learn from, not just making them) that builds character and makes us who we are today.

I've had my fair share too. You name it, I've done it. But never have I once regretted each step I have taken in my life. It is merely part and parcel of growing up. And grow we shall, into a better, wiser person. I try to take things less negatively, as sometimes it is inevitable that we stumble and fall. What's important is that we pick ourselves up, dust off the crap that is on you, and walk tall.

What I'm about to say next may sound confusing. But just bear with me, ok?

I, personally, expect the worse. But I don't wish for it to happen. I'm merely anticipating, preparing for the worst. In case shit really happens, it will not come as a surprise, but I will be ready, so I can sidestep it and get on with life. Some take this concept and apply it the wrong way. They get too engrossed in thinking about the worst that their actions somehow draws them towards disaster. Life is tough enough for you to worry about every little thing. We just need to worry about things that are worth worrying about.

I'm not an expert in dealing with life. I do crash and burn at times. I also have broken down in the middle night can cried my eyes out. But I guess thinking positively does contribute in reducing the frequency of these instances.

Close your eyes and lean on me

2010-03-16T08:10:00.002+08:00

It's tiring to be strong all the time.

You don't have to put on a brave face. I can read behind the toughness and see the storm deep down inside.

It's ok to cry once in a while. It makes you feel better.

You've got me now. I'm here for you to hold your hand, through the happy and the tough times. I want to share everything with you, and would love it if you could share it all with me too.

Irony??

2010-03-11T09:08:00.002+08:00

I got a text earlier this morning.

It read, "Didn't know u hate me so much that u can block my call....take care then."

The irony of it? The calls came in at 3.15 am, 3.16 am, 3.22 am and 3.36 am.

No, I don't hate you. I just want some peace.

Skirt or Pants?

2010-03-07T12:06:00.006+08:00

Question of the century....."Who wears the pants in the relationship?"

It seems like a lot of couples in our hectic, career-minded, power hungry world nowadays are very concerned about this.

Ladies, generally more successful these days, may want to think that they have the right or power to exert control over their man.

Men, generally being the Male-Chauvinistic-Pigs they are, think that women, like children, should be seen and not heard.

Here's my take on this.

Control:

At of the end of day, does it really matter who has control over whom? I believe in harmony. I guess it's pretty sensible to live as equals instead of superiority. I don't think its right for guys to restrict their partners from going out or doing what they want with their own friends.

Yes, given the opportunity, some partners may stray and be promiscuous with temptation out there everywhere you look. Having said that, if they were to do it, they're not really worth your time anyway. Relationships are based on trust, not prison bars. Let them go, do not restrict them. If they really love you, they'll come home safe, unscathed, and scandal-free.

Finances:

It doesn't matter if you're earning a million bucks a month and your other half is eating plain rice and for breakfast lunch and dinner, therefore you have to pay for everything. I'm sure men can understand if you wanna pay for your own share too. Yes, its a turn on. But once in a while, let us take care of you.

Men have our own expenses too. We do not work for the sole purpose of paying for the house, the car and your shopping. You earn your own money. You pay for your shit. I really dislike it when girls make their boyfriends pay for their shopping. If the guy willingly buys it for them or offers to pay for things that you were gonna purchase, then let him, to a certain extent. I'm sure guys will appreciate it a lot when you do not expect him to pay for everything.

I think I've rambled on enough....who am I to give relationship advice anyway. Nights.

Is this a dream....or has God answered my prayers?

2010-02-27T00:00:00.003+08:00

About 2 months ago, I was telling myself, "Blackz, its about time you stopped jumping into relationships and get to know a girl better before you get yourself tangled in a web of pain, tears and disappointment."

Honestly, I have been drinking like a fish ever since I last broke up. At least 6 nights a week, I wasn't doing much for my liver, and lungs, to say the least. It also felt very empty, drinking and clubbing. Though you're surrounded by a million and one people, after a while it seems like they're there for Mr. Walker, Mr. Moet and Mr. Macallan more than they're there for me. Without knowing it, you slide into a realm of depression, even worse than before.

Recently, I met a certain someone who has brought me lots of joy, laughter and encouragement. I have to say, she's one of the most understanding, considerate persons I have ever met. We joke, we laugh and we bitch over everything and anything at all. She's somehow managed to pull me out of my drunken stupor and got me hooked on something else instead. HER.

Silly as it may seem or sound....I'm utterly, butterly smitten over her (some say I'm a Music Box, but it's different this time, really). She's someone who has helped me kick most of my bad habits, she calms my soul, and makes every single day brighter and skies more blue than it already is.

I'm really tired of being an asshole, and/or when I really try, being extremely disappointed. I sincerely hope that this time will be last time, in this sense, last time meaning "lasts a lifetime" :)

Baby, I promise to take care of you, to protect you and to love you. I will do anything possible, within my own capabilities, to make you as happy as you make me, if not more.

Hedge Ooh Tea...

2010-02-11T16:52:00.001+08:00

I find ladies who are intelligent, successful in their career and independant so damn HOT!!!
:)

24/7.....made in heaven......

2010-02-11T09:06:00.002+08:00

Today marks a full week of smiles, joy, lots of laughter and never-ending fun.

I hope this never ends. :)

Yellow or Orange?

2010-02-10T03:13:00.003+08:00

I found this pretty a-MUSE-ing......

Just watching it form.....

Plink!

2010-02-08T22:56:00.001+08:00

I found a muse.

Feng Tau Donkey???

2010-02-08T22:49:00.002+08:00